thinking.Here's a story about how that can go.It's a story about a woman named Emma.At 25,Emma came to my office because she was,in her

　　words,having an identity crisis.She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment,but she hadn't decided yet,so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.Because it was cheaper,she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition.And as hard as her 20s were,her early life had been even harder.She often cried in our sessions,but then would collect(安慰) herself by saying,“You can't pick your family,but you can pick your friends.”Well one day,Emma comes in,and she hangs her head in her lap,and she sobbed for most of the hour.She'd just bought a new address book,and she'd spend the morning filling in her many contacts,but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words"In case of emergency,please call…."She was nearly hysterical(歇斯底里) when she looked at me and said,“Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car

　　wreckWho's going to take care of me if I have cancer”Now in that moment,it took everything I had not to say,"I will."But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist(心理医师) who really,really cared.Emma needed a better life,and I knew this was her chance.I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining decade went parading by.So over the next weeks and months,I told Emma,three things that every

　　twentysomething,male or female,deserves to hear.First,I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital(身份资本).By get identity capital,I mean do something that adds value to who you are.Do

　　something that's an investment(投资) in who you might want to be next.I didn't know the future of Emma's career,and no one knows the future of work,but I do know this:Identity capital begets identity capital.(身份资本会成为身份的资本) So now is the time for that cross-country job,that internship,that startup you want to try.I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here,but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count(我是在劝诫你们不要做无谓的探索),which,by the way,is not exploration,That's procrastination(拖延).I told Emma to explore work and make it count.Second,I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated(不要坐井观天).Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport,but twentysomethings who huddle together(交往) with like-minded peers limit who they know,what they think,how they speak,and where they work.That new piece of capital,that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties(新事物来自于我们所谓的弱关系),our friends of friends of friends.So yes,half of twentysomethings are un- or under-employed.But half aren't,and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.(弱关系就是你进入那个群体的途径)Half of new jobs are never posted,so reaching out to your neighbor's boss,is how you get that un-posted job.(有一半的新工作是没有招聘信息的，所以去问你邻居的老板，是你得到那个没有招聘信息的工作的方法。)It's not

　　cheating.It's the science of how information spreads.(这不是走后门，信息就是这样传播的)Last but not least,Emma believed that you can't pick your

　　family,but you can pick your friends.Now this was true for her growing up,but as a twentysomething,soon Emma would pick her famile when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own.I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20,or even 25,and I agree with you.But grabbing

　　whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle(婚姻的殿堂) is not progress(是行不通的).The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one,and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.Picking your family is about

　　consciously(理智地) choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.So what happened to EmmaWell.we went through that address book,and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.That weak tie helped her get a job there.That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.Now,five years later,she's a special events planner for museums.She's married to a man she mindfully(谨慎地) chose.She loves her new career,she loves her new family,and she sent me a card that said,"Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough."Now Emma's story made that sound easy,but that's what I love about working with

　　twentysomethings.They are so easy to help.Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX,bound for somewhere west.Right after takeoff,a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise,at 21 or 25 or even 29,one good conversation,one good

　　break,one good TED Talk,can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.So here's an idea worth spreading to every

　　twentysomething you know.It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day:Thirty is not the new 20,so claim your adulthood,get some identity capital,use your weak ties，pick your family.(30岁不是一个新的20岁，所以认清你的成年期，获得一些身份资本，利用你的不那么直接的关系，选择你的家人。)Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.(不要被你不知道的或是没有做过的事所限制)You're deciding your life right now.

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