你下次出去的时候观察下街道上的男男女女们。你见过一个拎着他女朋友或他妻子包的男人吗?是的，这在中国是很常见的。他帮助她，宠着她，用自己的实际行动告诉爱的人，他有多爱她!就像一句谚语说的：“萝卜青菜，各有所爱。”

　　I actually prefer Mr Left. The reason is simple. When Mr Right solves all your problems, he becomes your problem. Perhaps one of the most important roles a boyfriend can play is a cheerleader rather than a helper.

　　其实我更喜欢左先生，理由很简单。当右先生解决了你所有的问题，他会成为你的问题。或许一个男朋友或丈夫更应该扮演一个鼓励者的角色，而非佣人。

　　Maybe some Chinese men have a problem saying "I love you," but there are things we all want to hear more than those three words. For example, "You can do it;" "You have my support;" and "Well done! I am so proud of you."

　　或许有些人对于“我爱你”三个字会有疑问，但是除了这三个字，还有好多字眼都是我们期待听到的，如“你可以做到的”，“我支持你”，“做的棒，我为你自豪”等。

　　We cannot expect our boyfriend or husband to help us solve all of our problems all the time.

　　我们不要盼着我们的男朋友或丈夫帮我们解决所有的事儿。

　　Sometimes we admire them so much that we forget they are also human beings, not Superman.

　　有时候我们很欣赏他们，但别忘了男人也是人，不是超人。

　　Yes, maybe Mr Left cannot erase our insecurities, and maybe he cannot help you every time you need him, but that doesn’t matter. Instead of giving you fish, he teaches you how to fish. His encouragement and love raises your confidence and guides you to overcome problems by yourself.

　　是的，也许左先生给我们带不来安全感，也许当你需要他时他不在你身旁，但这都没关系。他没有给你鱼，但他教会你怎样钓到鱼。他的鼓励和关爱会让你增加自信，也会引导你自己克服困难。　　You eventually become a better and stronger person.

　　最终你将成为一名勇士。