My family's house rules story has two principles: one, to be good; Two, on this basis, and strive to do a useful person.
Discipline is not just daughter, more of a tube we adults. From our daughter was born to now, nearly 9 years down, looking back, whatever our parents do good house rules, often daughter also did well; We parents lead the violation, or good house rules, often are punished.
In my home, before the rice then empress to wash hands, wash a face to brush your teeth before going to bed, basic implementation in place; The house rules related to the learning and effective implementation. I basic don't watch TV at ordinary times, do not play games, when they have free reading, try to go out to do outdoor sports, every week the husband read books at home too much at ordinary times, daughter, also frequently twice, read the phrases dictionary and math also enjoy it. Sometimes with a husband see reflection after several times, but there are some rules in our house, do not too ideal, such as "to bring things back where you", "their dirty things packed immediately", "no temper tantrum" and so on, to think of it, because our parents can't set a good example. So, her daughter set rules and implementation rules, also is our parents' self-reflection, good chance to start.
Lead by example. Personally, I think in Chinese family education is to teach children more people skills, and school teach more knowledge of child education.
我家的家规故事有两个原则:一,先做个好人;二,在此基础上,再努力做个有用的人。
家规并不只管女儿,更是管我们大人的。从女儿出生到现在,快9年下来,回头一看,凡是我们父母做得好的家规,往往女儿也表现不错;我们父母带头违反、或者言不由衷的家规,常常都是空文。
在我家,饭前便后要洗手、睡前要刷牙洗脸,基本执行到位;与学习有关的家规也有效落实了。我平时基本不看电视、不玩游戏、有空就看书,尽量每周出去做户外运动,老公平时也在家看书多,女儿耳濡目染,也常常手不释卷,读成语词典和做数学题也乐在其中。有时还拿着老公看的三国志看上几遍,可是,我们家还有一些家规,做得不太理想,比如“哪里拿来的东西放回哪里去”、“自己弄脏的东西马上收拾好”、“不能乱发脾气”之类,细想起来,都是因为我们父母不能以身作则。所以,给女儿制定家规、执行家规,也是我们父母的自我反省、重新出发的好机会。
以身作则。我个人以为在中国家庭教育更多则教孩子为人处事的道理,而学校教的更多的是孩子知识方面的教育了。